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Death by a thousand thoughts

Death by a thousand thoughts

pne_monster said:
Think I read that article, the one about his relationship with his dad? Tough to read but good that he’s getting help. Hope you are too
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Yeah mate , that was the one ! I agree it was a really tough read but at the same time a great read ! I am doing well pal , thanks for asking , really appreciate it !
 
mapping said:
Yeah it was , the werid part was when he said “he didn’t feel black enough “ can only imagine what he went through
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I watched the documentary and I found the way he spoke about his dad was a bit odd. It was along the lines of his dad would’ve been a pro footballer if he wasn’t black. Not saying that’s not true, just seemed a bit obsessive.
 
Nobber said:
I watched the documentary and I found the way he spoke about his dad was a bit odd. It was along the lines of his dad would’ve been a pro footballer if he wasn’t black. Not saying that’s not true, just seemed a bit obsessive.
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Yeah Clarke , in the article spoke openly about his relationship with his dad and how that affected him , not seen the documentary , wonder if I can get that somewhere , what was interesting was his diagnosis of BPD 👀 and how openly he spoke about it , big kudos for that.

In the article he spoke about talking to his father in depth as an adult and said everything he wanted to say which in a way got it out of his head and helped him reconcile it before his dad died.
 
mapping said:
Yeah Clarke , in the article spoke openly about his relationship with his dad and how that affected him , not seen the documentary , wonder if I can get that somewhere , what was interesting was his diagnosis of BPD 👀 and how openly he spoke about it , big kudos for that.

In the article he spoke about talking to his father in depth as an adult and said everything he wanted to say which in a way got it out of his head and helped him reconcile it before his dad died.
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The affect those that were before us have on our mind is massive. The only thing greater is the voice inside that we all hear daily. Even as I type this, my inner voice is dictating what I type.

Sometimes the voice inside isn’t right, and needs correcting. Don’t take that thought as gospel x

How deep was that?
 
mapping said:
Yeah Clarke , in the article spoke openly about his relationship with his dad and how that affected him , not seen the documentary , wonder if I can get that somewhere , what was interesting was his diagnosis of BPD 👀 and how openly he spoke about it , big kudos for that.

In the article he spoke about talking to his father in depth as an adult and said everything he wanted to say which in a way got it out of his head and helped him reconcile it before his dad died.
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Nobber said:
The affect those that were before us have on our mind is massive. The only thing greater is the voice inside that we all hear daily. Even as I type this, my inner voice is dictating what I type.

Sometimes the voice inside isn’t right, and needs correcting. Don’t take that thought as gospel x

How deep was that?
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I'm referring to normal people here not wrong uns......... But I'll wager if you are both parents then something will have stuck in your heads for life ( it did mine ) re the actions of your mum and dad that went right over their heads and meant nothing to them ...The same will happen to your own kids and you'll wonder what the hell they are on about if they ever tell you.

Does that make any sense?
 
His dad use to do a bit of thai boxing back in the day, and I'm talking 30+ years ago at a gym opposite what was The Blue Moon. Or was it The Amsterdam Bar at the time?
Always difficult matching him up. Many didn't fancy it.
 
Nobber said:
The affect those that were before us have on our mind is massive. The only thing greater is the voice inside that we all hear daily. Even as I type this, my inner voice is dictating what I type.

Sometimes the voice inside isn’t right, and needs correcting. Don’t take that thought as gospel x

How deep was that?
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It was deep 😁 but deep is good when it comes to mental health , I can relate to your whole post !
 
Liberation said:
I'm referring to normal people here not wrong uns......... But I'll wager if you are both parents then something will have stuck in your heads for life ( it did mine ) re the actions of your mum and dad that went right over their heads and meant nothing to them ...The same will happen to your own kids and you'll wonder what the hell they are on about if they ever tell you.

Does that make any sense?
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Yeah libs , kinda , it does make sence , I tried to identify where things went wrong in my childhood and have worked hard to correct that with my kids ! Just a very basic example , I was never once told to brush my teeth ???? I mean seriously !
 
MrHodgeheg123 said:
His dad use to do a bit of thai boxing back in the day, and I'm talking 30+ years ago at a gym opposite what was The Blue Moon. Or was it The Amsterdam Bar at the time?
Always difficult matching him up. Many didn't fancy it.
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“many didn’t fancy it” you say , is that because he was hard as nails ???
 
mapping said:
It was deep 😁 but deep is good when it comes to mental health , I can relate to your whole post !
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It’s a classic psychodynamic approach, first memories, relationships with parents (although relationships with parents is also a developmental theory as in attachment theory). But yes those before us as in parents create an environment that can influence future behaviour. Classic nature v nurture.
 
pne_monster said:
It’s a classic psychodynamic approach, first memories, relationships with parents (although relationships with parents is also a developmental theory as in attachment theory). But yes those before us as in parents create an environment that can influence future behaviour. Classic nature v nurture.
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Yep agree , bang on nail on the head

Edit : just to add to that , I can’t stand my mum , but my adopted dad I loved so much , he gave me so much more than my mum ever did !
 
mapping said:
Yep agree , bang on nail on the head

Edit : just to add to that , I can’t stand my mum , but my adopted dad I loved so much , he gave me so much more than my mum ever did !
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Important others aren’t just our parents - can be siblings, grandparents, mentors. Good to know you have someone that is giving you some guidance
 
pne_monster said:
Important others aren’t just our parents - can be siblings, grandparents, mentors. Good to know you have someone that is giving you some guidance
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Very much so. This is from a mates Facebook who is a teacher/pastoral and was given this father day card by kids in the drama club he runs at a school in a fairly deprived area. He was in pieces from it

(Can’t add pictures in this subforum but words were)

“Better than most of are atuel Dads”
 
jakehake said:
Very much so. This is from a mates Facebook who is a teacher/pastoral and was given this father day card by kids in the drama club he runs at a school in a fairly deprived area. He was in pieces from it

(Can’t add pictures in this subforum but words were)

“Better than most of are atuel Dads”
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That last line Jake “ better than most of are atuels dads “ That says so much in so many ways !
 
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