My Depression
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Unregistered, I hope this has started you on the path to recovery.
Even though we may all have a myriad of opinions on everything from football to politics, we all share one thing. We are all decent folk who genuinely care about others. That is part of what makes this community so great.
But it doesn't stop there. There's the odd imbecile about but I'm sure my second paragraph applies to society in general. I bet there are more people willing to help you than you think. You just need to reach out, like you did here, and who knows what opportunities will arise?
Even though we may all have a myriad of opinions on everything from football to politics, we all share one thing. We are all decent folk who genuinely care about others. That is part of what makes this community so great.
But it doesn't stop there. There's the odd imbecile about but I'm sure my second paragraph applies to society in general. I bet there are more people willing to help you than you think. You just need to reach out, like you did here, and who knows what opportunities will arise?
No worries.
I didn't take offence. I just wanted to make clear that I wasn't saying it should be a last resort for everyone.
It's just how I feel for myself.
Each case is different in someway and each solution is different.
This is why it's pleasing that so many people are sharing their personal feelings here in the hope that something said, even if it only one small thing will be of use to our mutual friend in his time of need.
OP
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Thanks for the replies again people. Nobber your advice and experience is invaluable. I'm going to book an appointment with my GP on Monday morning. My problems with antidepressants is that from what I've read they're just guesswork. Serotonin levels in the brain cannot be measured and so the drug strikes me as another money maker for the drugs companies rather than a long term fix for myself.
Just being able to air my thoughts and feelings on here is so helpful. I've tried to talk to my parents but what you want to say and what you do say are two different things when in conversation, so taking the time to write down how I'm really feeling is a great help. In fact, I showed my parents this thread a few hours ago and they were overwhelmed (as I am, I'm just not that great at showing emotions that aren't misery at the moment!), my mum even had a tear in her eye at the fact that so many people have made an effort to help.
It's difficult for my parents because I think they just want to shake me back into the lively person I was 18 months ago and don't understand what is going on, and I find it difficult to say anything other than "I'm feeling like shit" which doesn't help anyone.
Anyway, I'm rambling on a little but I just wanted to say a special thank you to Nobber for posting his experiences up here for me without feeling the need to hide under an anonymous tag. If I ever need someone to talk to, I know I've got more folk to turn to than I bargained for. FWIW, the deany and Nobber debate about antidepressants is exactly the same debate I'm having in my head over the medication, but I understand where you're both coming from.
Good night guys.
Just being able to air my thoughts and feelings on here is so helpful. I've tried to talk to my parents but what you want to say and what you do say are two different things when in conversation, so taking the time to write down how I'm really feeling is a great help. In fact, I showed my parents this thread a few hours ago and they were overwhelmed (as I am, I'm just not that great at showing emotions that aren't misery at the moment!), my mum even had a tear in her eye at the fact that so many people have made an effort to help.
It's difficult for my parents because I think they just want to shake me back into the lively person I was 18 months ago and don't understand what is going on, and I find it difficult to say anything other than "I'm feeling like shit" which doesn't help anyone.
Anyway, I'm rambling on a little but I just wanted to say a special thank you to Nobber for posting his experiences up here for me without feeling the need to hide under an anonymous tag. If I ever need someone to talk to, I know I've got more folk to turn to than I bargained for. FWIW, the deany and Nobber debate about antidepressants is exactly the same debate I'm having in my head over the medication, but I understand where you're both coming from.
Good night guys.
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You are not alone OP because I can really relate to a lot of what you said having gone through very similar experiences myself, right down to the 4 year degree, except it was Shingles, along with a broken heart for me.
Times a great healer and you will move on from these experiences and be a lot stronger and wiser for it. The making of the man, and you genuinely sound like a top bloke and a decent human being who's moral compass is pointing the right direction. That's definitely something you should feel good about yourself for.
Like I say I know exactly where your coming from, looking around I see it also, the greed and corruption, a society that seems to reward sociopathic, amoral behaviours, where status is determined by how much you own - but you've got to rise above all the illusionary fake superficiality and materialism, although I know it's harder when your younger, but that's the important point, your still very young. There is so much to do and experience, there so much natural beauty out there and most people are in there heart good moral people, it's the system that corrupts, but that can be changed.
Anyway, I agree with the other excellent replies, travelling is a must, walking and keeping fit, volunteering in the community.......... whatever it is just take sometime out for yourself and towards what has meaning for you. Get away from some of the artificial pressures of life and don't worry too much about the future, good things will come, no doubt.
Times a great healer and you will move on from these experiences and be a lot stronger and wiser for it. The making of the man, and you genuinely sound like a top bloke and a decent human being who's moral compass is pointing the right direction. That's definitely something you should feel good about yourself for.
Like I say I know exactly where your coming from, looking around I see it also, the greed and corruption, a society that seems to reward sociopathic, amoral behaviours, where status is determined by how much you own - but you've got to rise above all the illusionary fake superficiality and materialism, although I know it's harder when your younger, but that's the important point, your still very young. There is so much to do and experience, there so much natural beauty out there and most people are in there heart good moral people, it's the system that corrupts, but that can be changed.
Anyway, I agree with the other excellent replies, travelling is a must, walking and keeping fit, volunteering in the community.......... whatever it is just take sometime out for yourself and towards what has meaning for you. Get away from some of the artificial pressures of life and don't worry too much about the future, good things will come, no doubt.
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Agree wholeheartedly with this, speaking from experience, they can really help to give you that kickstart you need to help get you out of a slump. Shouldn't be considered as a cure all but definitely a help. And certainly nothing to be ashamed of.
Like me 😉
I just want you to know that I m thinking about you.
You are not alone.
You are not alone.
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You really Do have problems, don't you 😉
Nobber... that first post you made was excellent.
Edit.... well, actually, it was your second one I was really referring to.
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Some great advice in this thread. Just wanted to add my best wishes to the OP in getting through this difficult time. And you will. It's funny how several bad things tend to happen within a short period of time, making it seem like an impossible task to deal with it all. Life can be like that, and your experiences will make you all the stronger for getting dealing with them. Personally I find the diet/exercise change a great help in getting through my issues (see the mid-life crisis thread). I have also found taking Rescue Remedy everyday helpful to keep things in balance. Maybe worth considering.
Yeah, this is right.
It's very warming that there's a lot of people on here willing to share negative life experiences to make others feel better - when you feel down to the extent that suicide crosses your mind it's frightening for many reasons.
I can't give advice other than to say that everyone in the world has mental health issues - whether they realise it or not. It's just that some people hide it better than others.
To admit to your feelings is a massive strength, it's up to you how you go about fighting your bad thoughts - everybody is different as others have said, but one thing I will guarantee is that you will learn to laugh at your own issues as time goes by - after all, worse shit happens.
Give yourself time - don't expect to feel better tomorrow, or in a week. But you will feel better, because you'll forget about your ex-girlfriend and you'll move on.
There's always people on here willing to help you, me included, if you are struggling - so you won't ever be alone.
Dan
Laughing at ourselves is indeed brilliant. If we can all do that and ignore the ego we are on the right path to happiness.
I laugh at myself all the time 🙂
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Exercise is good, but please take it easy, just at this present time with not eating properly the last thing your body needs is a good hammering, basically your battery at this time is flat, try to start to eat well and take a good vitamin supplyment, and a few good walks in the sun.
You body will recover in time, just give it space.
Take care,
You body will recover in time, just give it space.
Take care,
I understand your apprehension but don'tto be concerned about discussing this with your Doctor. I spent 10 years plus before I put my hand up and asked for help and it was the best thing I've ever done for myself but more importantly for Family and Friends. I've spent the last year trying out various treatments which worked and then peaked and have finally found the right balance that works for me and keeps me sane. Remember we're not superheroes or the stereocasts that society likes us to think we are. Take the first step, enpower yourself and speak with your Doctor and remember it's "you" you're talking about
Great post mate. Took me years to ask for help....well I had a breakdown so didn't have much choice. That was my turning point.
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Can i ask Nobber , What is a breakdown and how does it affect people you hear it quite a lot i have always wondered what it is .
I was involved in a serious fraud case that I had uncovered.
Kept it together for years. Got threatened, family threatened. Company I worked for didn't believe me. Thought I was going to lose my job, my family, everything.
Then one day, after one too many rows, I gave up.
I left my house in tears and walked through the night. My wife finally found me sat on the floor behind the Finney Fountain. I couldn't even think, I cried uncontrollably and couldn't stop......I hadn't cried since I was a kid. My wife took me straight to the doctors who took me straight in. Then I couldn't stop, for days.
I can't even remember most of it but it was a physical as well as a mental breakdown. I hurt for months.
I was proven correct in my case, many people lost their jobs and prosecuted. My honesty nearly killed me.